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Tench Tilghman's avatar

I can't imagine what my old prep school (class of 71) would be like to attend now. Actually, I can. It would be "All about oneself" not "Not For Oneself" which is its motto. The intense self-reflection, self care, look inward for the inner badness that exists now--One thing about boarding school then was the melting pot of people from all over and the lack of victim mentality being instilled in the students. White rich kids got expelled. Black kids on full scholarships became bank executives. The students were treated and respected as INDIVIDUALS, not part of a class, or color or sexual orientation. We were too busy with attention on study, sports, music, if we wanted to succeed or had some discipline to do so. Whatever is causing these kids to contract, look inward, mistrust their nameless whatever, blame themselves, hate themselves--that is the enemy. I daresay any "industries" have jumped on this bandwagon as young people have no protection except for groups like yourselves. Even the field of Mental Health should be carefully scrutinized for having been overtaken as well. I do believe that Mothers everywhere may be the only group that can create enough force to counteract the demise we see happening. This is not to put down fathers or others who are fighting the fight but NO ONE can resist or defend from the passion of mothers fighting for their children. NO ONE. THANK YOU AGAIN.

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Standing ovation!!! Every time I see people respond with "private schools! School choice," to some crazy public school story, I just want to scream, "NO!" You have LESS power in a private school. Our private school doesn't have public board meetings, doesn't release their budget, zero transparency. My youngest is way behind in reading and it took months to get extra support in school. The administrative leadership is openly contemptuous of parents--with a smile. Our brand-new DEI director is a twitter star pushing garbage while making no demonstrable improvements in the school and I wonder, did teachers get a raise? Tuition has increased each year since 2020 while services have been gutted, all in the name of "safety" from COVID--all while other area independent schools--and even some publics!!--continued to offer extracurriculars, even in 2020/21. What I'm saying is, tread with severe caution before deciding on private school. Realize you have virtually no recourse when mistakes--intentional or not--are made. Know that your voice as a parent is worthless. The only thing that matters is whether or not you paid tuition. Many parents like myself are in seemingly impossible positions--send your kid to a failing public school, pay for private and see what happens or rearrange your life to homeschool. BTW, I share all of this as a Latina, solidly middle-class--not at all rich OR white. This DEI nonsense is toxic and is NOT something that I find helpful as a woman of color. We STRUGGLE to send our kids to this school and it was the biggest mistake. I thought if we made it through COVID, it would improve but then DEI came in this year and I see that it is a completely broken school and system. We're out.

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